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Last 30 Days of the DECADE.

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It’s the last 30 days of the decade, and I am a little embarrassed to report, I have not been doing very well in this first week.

Last Week was Thanksgiving week and the last 7 days of the second month of #TheLast90Days Challenge. In my last post I promised myself and all of you I would get back on the boat towards a better me. And I did… for the most part. I went to the gym 3 times a week, stayed away from cheese, (I did have GF Mac & Cheese on Thanksgiving 😞😛) , and worked through all the negativity, and other people’s opinion about my life.

And then like a car going 95 mph on a 35 mph zone it is suddenly December and the first week is almost done.

First week = Complete Utter Chaos. 😕

When I got back home we had no groceries in the fridge for cooking at any time. So we said we will go shopping on  Monday, and then it was Wednesday at 8:30 pm and we walked in to our local Wegmans…

I planned to go to the gym Monday, Wednesday and Friday…. I left work on Monday at 8pm, Wednesday at 7pm and I hope I get my to do list empty by 6pm today…  

My routine is 6 am Wake up , 10:30 pm Bedtime… People I have barely slept this week, to ensure I get everything I have to do done, which means that when I go to bed at midnight everyday I am not waking up at 6am, I need 8 hours of sleep. If not I can’t function during the day. 

I don’t know how you feel but I get extremely annoyed when work or tasks, get in the way of doing my day to day personal errands, this week it felt like there was just not enough hours in the day to get everything done.

There is still 3 days left of the week, which means I still have 3 chances (all I really need) to go to the gym. 3 chances to meal prep, to cook, to clean, to get ready for the next week. 

Here is to working out this weekend, to therapy and clearing my mind, meal prepping  & cleaning on Saturday, cooking, spend quality time  & prepping for the week on Sunday.

 

Currently living by the following words

“Make sure to START TODAY, so you can feed the energy you will have tomorrow”

Thanks for checking in, I will see you guys next week! 

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#WCW

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Women Crush Wednesday

When thinking about what to write this week, I decided to write about the one thing I think is most important in life. 

 

Women supporting women in every aspect of life. 

 
That means supporting your friends in their healthy relationships, supporting women’s desire for a career change, their entrepreneur desires, creating an open safe space for your co workers, supporting their social media presence and giving words of affirmation, supporting whatever is a priority in women’s  life and let them know that their decision is the right decision. 
 
This also means supporting the woman in your shared spaces, the women who run businesses in your neighborhood, the women who support you, the women running for office in you local community, the women whose identity or story you don’t know, understand or agree with. 
 
It means talking to your mom, sister, grandmother, cousins, nieces, friends, about everything and anything. 
 
We have spent too much of our amazing power, because we as women are powerful (and we know it)  tearing each other down, believing there is only space for one of us at the table or in the room, when in reality there is always space for more. We have spent too much of our power trying to fit into molds created by people who don’t know us, who don’t understand us, who believe that all women can be labeled, as geeky or smart,  pretty or sporty,  girly or tomboy, and many more labels that simply don’t deserve a time or a place in our world. 
 
We women have a wide variety of skills, abilities, interests, powers and knowledge that can change the world. But instead we have used them to tear the most vulnerable women in our surrounding down, because we feel threatened by their presence, because we have been raised to believe that only 1 of us is allowed to speak up. 
 
I come from a long line of powerful women, many of them who’s up bringing was similar but their stories are completely different, I come from a line of women who told their husband, you are not traveling to the other side of the world by yourself I am coming with you. I come from one of the founders of the suffragist movement in Puerto Rico. You and I come from women who educated themselves, worked and were able to support themselves without a man in times where this was not accepted. From women who decided they wanted to stay home and raised the kids, but went back into the workforce when times were tough because, ‘We do this together” was their way of life. You and I come from women who built their own business and even when they failed they continue to try again. You and I come from women, who didn’t plan on being single mothers, but the put their boots own and made it work. You and I come from women who where repeatedly told ‘you are not enough’, but they still made it.  You and I come from women whose life path was completely different than yours and mine, but we are still as powerful as they where. 
Every woman in my life is completely different, even the ones who share the DNA and upbringing. And each and everyone of them is incredibly special to me, and gets my support in everything they do because supporting them is the best feeling I could ever have. 
 
I support the single mom’s in my life, because dammit they are the bravest people I know.
I support my entrepreneur aunt, no matter what she does, because her tenacity is what I strive for.
I support my 7 year old niece, in her dream of being a dog rescuer, because her heart should never become smaller.
I support the LGBTQ+ women in my life, because maybe just maybe, my smile is the one thing that lets them know they deserve to be in this world. 
I support my mom, trying to figure out her life,  now that she has an empty nest, because starting your life over from 0, is the hardest choice anyone can make. 
I support my best friend, in every crazy new project she does, because dammit she is extremely talented and the world should see her
I support my grandmothers crazy thoughts because my time with them is precious.
I support my cousin in med school, because no one should be alone in times of hardship. 
I support my friend when she just need to talk because that is what we do. 
I support  my nieces lets go dancing idea  because they deserve they world. 
I support every crazy, what the hell, maybe tomorrow, life, food, environment changing decision, everyone in my space makes, because the warm fuzzy feeling I get is the best feeling in the world. 
 

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Thursday the 28th, 2019

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What am I thankful for?

I am thankful for my aunt telling me I am being too controlling about stuff. Thankful that my grandpa calls me every 5 minutes about something on his phone. Thankful for my grandmother being annoying about if I can actually cook. Thankful that my aunt makes an effort to teach me everything about cooking, finance, owning a home or just simply asking how am I doing.

Since moving to the US, Holidays are the worst outside of Puerto Rico. 

In 2017, we packed my boyfriend’s Veloster with my mom, who lived in Baltimore at the time, my brother, who goes to college in Pittsburgh, Gabriel and I, and proceeded to make the drive to NC the day before Thanksgiving. It was a rough road trip, but 8 hours later I was with family which was all that mattered to me. In 2018 we hosted Thanksgiving at our place, and a little advice, if you don’t have the best relationship with your mother, I don’t recommend having her stay an entire week with you during the holidays.  This year, Gabriel and I once again drove down to NC to spend quality time with my family, You might think this is a lot of traveling, then again Thanksgiving tends to be the holiday of traveling so you might not, but doing this is the best way to forget that we live so far away from what we call home. 

You see Puerto Rico is Home and will always be home, and for that I am grateful, but the best part of a home is the people in it. I am incredibly family-oriented, even when they drive me crazy, I will do anything for my family. Living in DC is amazing but I have no family around, my closest relatives are in Delaware and I rarely speak with them. But my aunt in NC means everything to me, my grandparents mean everything to me. 

My Grandfather is someone I am extremely grateful for and have always been, but since a hospital stays and scare we had with him last year, the idea for being so far away has haunted me. You see I got a call saying that he might not make it past the weekend and I panicked. Mi Abuelo io has always been there for me, no matter what I choose to do. Even when he doesn’t agree with it, he is incredibly supportive and proud of it. He means everything to me and the thought of losing him shook me to my core. I wasn’t there,  and I wasn’t sure if I would make it in time. I hadn’t spoken to him in a while, I hadn’t said I love you, I haven’t thanked him for everything he had ever done for me.

He stayed in the hospital for 41 days, and unfortunately, things got worse before they got better. So focusing on work was something I simply couldn’t do. Every day I called him 2 twice a day, I called my mom, my aunts, and my grandmother constantly because I needed to know what was happening. You see I was ready to get on a plane, but getting on a plane meant I was flying to say goodbye and I couldn’t get myself to do that.

It’s something I am still not ready to do. I know everyone says you are never ready to say goodbye, but I have been ready before, when my other grandfather was sick and was also in an out and the doctor had no hope, I had to get ready because if I didn’t I would have been selfish. He was suffering and saying goodbye was the right thing to do because it would mean he would no longer be in pain. But I am not ready to lose my other grandfather just yet. 

This Thanksgiving I am thankful to be able to hear my Abuelo io call me “graviela”. To have him give me a kiss on the forehead, to see him sleeping and snoring on the couch with the dog on his lap, to see him decide that he will smoke a cigar because no one is telling him otherwise. To listen to his voice while asking the same question 5 times a day. I am thankful I have another day to be in his presence. 

I am thankful that I am blessed to have a crazy family, that even though we aren’t in Puerto Rico, we are all blessed and grateful to have a little piece of home in North Carolina.

 

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ECO Living: News Update

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On November 20th, 2019 while everyone in DC listens to the impeachment hearings and prepared for the 5th Democratic debt. There was a bill on the house floor waiting for a vote.

A bill called Shark Fin Sales Elimination Act, H.R 737. This bill would end all commercial trade in the United States. This included all imports, exports, trade, distribution and possession for commercial purposes of shark fins or products containing shark fins. A trade that Americans overwhelmingly oppose!

Yesterday the U.S House said a decisive and resounding “NO” to the brutal shark fin trade. House members voted 310 to 107 to PASS this bill (H.R 737). As I use this post to thank those members of Congress who voted to PASS this bill I will also bring to light the representatives who seem to support a trade in which fishermen cut the fins of sharks while alive and then dump them back in the ocean to die.

Below is the list of their last names, If you are curious about their party affiliations, here is the layout 2 Democrats, 104 Republicans & 1 Independent voted “nay” on this bill.

Abraham
Aderholt
Allen
Amash
Armstrong
Baird
Balderson
Banks
Biggs
Bishop (NC)
Bishop (UT)
Brady
Brooks (AL)
Buck
Bucshon
Byrne
Cheney
Cline
Cloud
Collins (GA)
Comer
Crawford
Curtis
DesJarlais
Duncan
Dunn
Ferguson
Fleischmann
Foxx (NC)
Fulcher
Gianforte
Gibbs
Gohmert
Gosar
Graves (GA)
Graves (LA)
Graves (MO)
Green (TN)
Harris
Hartzler
Hern, Kevin
Herrera Beutler
Hice (GA)
Higgins (LA)
Hill (AR)
Holding
Huizenga
Johnson (LA)
Johnson (OH)
Johnson (SD)
Jordan
Joyce (PA)
Kelly (MS)
King (IA)
LaHood
Lamborn
Latta
Lesko
Lieu, Ted
Long
Loudermilk
Lucas
Luetkemeyer
Marchant
Massie
McClintock
McKinley
Meadows
Miller
Mullin
Murphy (NC)
Newhouse
Norman
Nunes
Palazzo
Palmer
Posey
Ratcliffe
Roby
Rodgers (WA)
Rogers (AL)
Rouzer
Roy
Rutherford
Scalise
Scott, Austin
Sensenbrenner
Shimkus
Smith (MO)
Smith (NE)
Spano
Stewart
Taylor
Thornberry
Van Drew
Walberg
Walker
Waltz
Weber (TX)
Wenstrup
Westerman
Williams
Wilson (SC)
Wittman
Womack
Yoho
Young

Remember to use this information for the greater good, to utilize this information, in the voting booth, to use this information when calling your local and national representatives.

ALL POLITICS ARE PERSONAL

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Last 90 Days Challenge

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On October 1st 2019, My cousin (my accountability partner) sent a video to our group chat of the Last 90 Days Journal, I was officially intrigued, did a quick google search, came across The Hollis Co, Last 90 Days Challenge. Right there and then at 8:30 am I signed up to get the weekly emails and do this whole thing. Around 2:30pm I purchased the journal( not necessary to participate) and waited. From that moment on (not that I had connected the dots yet) I made a commitment to my self to do more of what I love, to find my why, to dedicate time to what makes me happy.

The challenge (a free one), is about committing yourself to doing 5 things everyday. It’s called “5 To Thrive” and its a promise to yourself that you will dedicate time for yourself in your schedule. A promise to yourself that you are working for a better tomorrow.

5 To Thrive

  1. Daily Gratitude Practice
  2. Drink half your body weight in ounces
  3. Move your body for 30 minutes everyday
  4. Give up 1 category of food
  5. Wake up one hour earlier.

Now let me tell you how I am doing this. 1) Every Morning I use the journal I bought, I write 5 things I am grateful for from the day before. Every-night while in bed I write things I am grateful for in my personal journal to then transfer to my “Girl Stop Apologizing” Journal. 2) I absolutely love Starbucks (not and Ad, but definitely open to that) so I have way to many of their Trenti Reusable (with straws) Cup and that is what I use to drink my water, As soon as I get up I fill that up with Ice, Lemons and Water and start drinking, I did the math and if I drink about 6 of those cups a day I am drinking around half my body weight, I also have 4 reminders on my Todoist App that say ” Girl did you finish your water”, so I hold myself accountable to this. 3) This is the hardest for me but it is also the one I invested most in, I hired a personal trainer to create monthly workouts I can do by myself at the gym, cause as much as I love her, I can’t afford her one on one’s. My workouts at the gym are for 3 times a week, and the rest of the days, I either run in the mornings, (Who am I?) or walk in the afternoon with my dog. 4) I work late, sometimes so I find any excuse to not cook, So For October I gave up Fast Food (forcing myself to cook), In November it’s Fast Food & cheese 🧀, and in December it’s Fast Food, Cheese and Bread. 5) Waking up early sucks for me so, I decided I would push myself to create a full routine as I NEED my 8 hours of sleep. My routine is to Be asleep/in bed going to sleep at 10:30pm every-night and wake up at 6am, 1 hour earlier than I am used to.

Now doing all of this hasn’t been easy, it has sucked, but I am committed, so committed that October was one of the most amazing months I have ever had, but then came November with the expectations and needs from other people, and I slacked off for 1 day, and said it’s fine tomorrow I will get back on track and now its November 20th and I fell of the boat, so bad that I even bought the “Girl Wash Your Face” Book by Rachel Hollis, as a tool to get me back on track, have I succeeded? hell no, I keep putting excuses and not prioritizing myself but I know that as long as I keep trying to get back on the boat, I am working towards the better version of my self.

Whats Next? Its the Wednesday 20th, We are one week away from Thanksgiving and I am not allowing this holiday to literally be the current pulling me away from the boat. So I promise this to you and myself. Today I will go jog for 30 minutes, I will drink 6 of my cups of water, and will not eat any fast food or cheese, and this will continue, and not stop.

I will check back in next week after the holidays and give you guys an updated!

Happy Thanksgiving!, Enjoy the food but eat healthy and drink your water!

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11/10/19-New Office New Look?

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It’s the first day at my jobs new office, we are still un packing but after the 2 week process of the #KonMari Method, I think it’s time I try to build a new look to go with the new space? Don’t you?

Well that is my plan, After years of hoarding clothes, that I had since way before college, a collection of graphic tees and items that an ex gave me because he didn’t like the way I dressed, (Ughh red flag right there). I took all of my clothes and laid them on the guest bedroom bed, and started going one by one, I swear I did not know how much stuff I actually had. I started hearing the never ending conversation my stepmom and I had while I lived whit her.

Mom: You have too much Clothes, you need to clean it out!

Ada: I use all of this! Plus it’s cute and I like it

Mom: Ughh you use the same shirts every week (She wasn’t wrong), Throw away stuff,

Ada: If it fits me it stays, and that is not true, plus blah blah blah

If I could go back in time and know what I know now, I would have cleaned out my closet, the first time I decided to move. Finally after years I did a proper cleaning of my closet and realized a few things. 1️⃣ I still had a lot of “college stuff”, 2️⃣ all of my professional clothes don’t fit me and I was hoping the would….someday, 3️⃣ I have a lot of stuff that doesn’t really go together and 4️⃣ I lack basic clothing items. Its because of this last one that I write this.

After a quick Pinterest google search I found multiple images of what a basic wardrobe should have, and I own 0 Items of these. I seriously mean 0. So here I am thinking how am I 27, have worked in the US Congress, on a US presidential campaign, have a full time job and have no basic wardrobe essentials. I realized that I own 0 because I never built one. I just bought what I liked or what i though was cute, I never though about what I could use this for , or how it fit with the rest of my closet. Also as a latina I am definitely a victim of getting clothes as presents 🎁 (Porque? diganme por que? Dame una tarjeta de regalo y se acabo).

So how do I build a wardrobe for the new life I am creating? Well I start from scratch I pretend I have 0 clothing, and this isn’t going to be easy as I have decided to remove as much “fast fashion” from my life as I can and start buying only from thrift stores. I need pants that fit me comfortably, shirts that I don’t feel fat in (I am working on this negative thought), Shoes that go with everything, and coats that actually look good. Here is what I will be shopping for hopefully all thrifted.

I am going on this shopping journey and it will take a few months but I hope you join me for the next part of it.

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A Mermaid in a Shark Tank….

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Una Sirena en un Tanque de Tiburones

I must be a Mermaid. I have no fear of depth and a great fear of shallow living

— Anaïs Nin.

Hi There,

My name is Ada and I am trying to figure out this whole life thing. I know if you are a millennial you are thinking “so are all of us, what makes you special”  and if you’re not a millennial you might be thinking what are you trying to figure out, your life can’t be that bad.

Well, I am special, because I am me and that is enough and it isn’t, my life is not bad at all, it’s amazing most of the time as is almost everyone’s life and that is exactly what I am trying to figure out. I am trying to figure out how to live this life, how to enjoy it, how to survive in it, how to stand out, how to make the most of it, how to be utterly and profoundly happy in a world where I have always felt I don’t quite belong in.

Hopefully, that got your attention, and you kept reading and didn’t close the tab. My name is Ada, (Basically Fairy), I am 27 as I write this and for as long as I can remember feeling like I belong isn’t something I am familiar with. I have always felt like a fish out of water, literally the ocean is the one place I always felt like I belonged in, and I have thought long and hard about writing all of this and sharing my life with complete strangers for a long time and well nowadays is not really that big of a deal, so here it goes.

Welcome to my ocean on the internet, an open safe space for me, (and hopefully you one day). A Space where I can share my story, my thoughts, my journey to become my best self. A space where anyone can feel like they belong, where everybody can share their stories.  I am not really sure as to why I am doing a public blog, I just hope that there are people out there who feel like I do, who think like I do and have struggled to find someone to relate to and I hope to become that person.

Not sure what I will write about but it will definitely be in the range of anything from Sharks to world politics and everything in between, and as I write about all of these topics know that everyone and anyone is welcomed in the community I hope to create with this page. I hope the ups and downs of my past, present, and future life are something you can relate to.

I am a Mermaid in a Shark Tank and I have spent the majority of my life bumping my head against the wall of the tank trying to keep moving, and I hope this page become my way out, because as most sharks I need to keep moving, and I will do everything to ensure I migrate forward.


This is the first post on my new blog. I’m just getting this new blog going, so stay tuned for more. Subscribe below to get notified when I post new updates.

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