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Women Crush Wednesday

When thinking about what to write this week, I decided to write about the one thing I think is most important in life. 

 

Women supporting women in every aspect of life. 

 
That means supporting your friends in their healthy relationships, supporting women’s desire for a career change, their entrepreneur desires, creating an open safe space for your co workers, supporting their social media presence and giving words of affirmation, supporting whatever is a priority in women’s  life and let them know that their decision is the right decision. 
 
This also means supporting the woman in your shared spaces, the women who run businesses in your neighborhood, the women who support you, the women running for office in you local community, the women whose identity or story you don’t know, understand or agree with. 
 
It means talking to your mom, sister, grandmother, cousins, nieces, friends, about everything and anything. 
 
We have spent too much of our amazing power, because we as women are powerful (and we know it)  tearing each other down, believing there is only space for one of us at the table or in the room, when in reality there is always space for more. We have spent too much of our power trying to fit into molds created by people who don’t know us, who don’t understand us, who believe that all women can be labeled, as geeky or smart,  pretty or sporty,  girly or tomboy, and many more labels that simply don’t deserve a time or a place in our world. 
 
We women have a wide variety of skills, abilities, interests, powers and knowledge that can change the world. But instead we have used them to tear the most vulnerable women in our surrounding down, because we feel threatened by their presence, because we have been raised to believe that only 1 of us is allowed to speak up. 
 
I come from a long line of powerful women, many of them who’s up bringing was similar but their stories are completely different, I come from a line of women who told their husband, you are not traveling to the other side of the world by yourself I am coming with you. I come from one of the founders of the suffragist movement in Puerto Rico. You and I come from women who educated themselves, worked and were able to support themselves without a man in times where this was not accepted. From women who decided they wanted to stay home and raised the kids, but went back into the workforce when times were tough because, ‘We do this together” was their way of life. You and I come from women who built their own business and even when they failed they continue to try again. You and I come from women, who didn’t plan on being single mothers, but the put their boots own and made it work. You and I come from women who where repeatedly told ‘you are not enough’, but they still made it.  You and I come from women whose life path was completely different than yours and mine, but we are still as powerful as they where. 
Every woman in my life is completely different, even the ones who share the DNA and upbringing. And each and everyone of them is incredibly special to me, and gets my support in everything they do because supporting them is the best feeling I could ever have. 
 
I support the single mom’s in my life, because dammit they are the bravest people I know.
I support my entrepreneur aunt, no matter what she does, because her tenacity is what I strive for.
I support my 7 year old niece, in her dream of being a dog rescuer, because her heart should never become smaller.
I support the LGBTQ+ women in my life, because maybe just maybe, my smile is the one thing that lets them know they deserve to be in this world. 
I support my mom, trying to figure out her life,  now that she has an empty nest, because starting your life over from 0, is the hardest choice anyone can make. 
I support my best friend, in every crazy new project she does, because dammit she is extremely talented and the world should see her
I support my grandmothers crazy thoughts because my time with them is precious.
I support my cousin in med school, because no one should be alone in times of hardship. 
I support my friend when she just need to talk because that is what we do. 
I support  my nieces lets go dancing idea  because they deserve they world. 
I support every crazy, what the hell, maybe tomorrow, life, food, environment changing decision, everyone in my space makes, because the warm fuzzy feeling I get is the best feeling in the world. 
 

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Thursday the 28th, 2019

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What am I thankful for?

I am thankful for my aunt telling me I am being too controlling about stuff. Thankful that my grandpa calls me every 5 minutes about something on his phone. Thankful for my grandmother being annoying about if I can actually cook. Thankful that my aunt makes an effort to teach me everything about cooking, finance, owning a home or just simply asking how am I doing.

Since moving to the US, Holidays are the worst outside of Puerto Rico. 

In 2017, we packed my boyfriend’s Veloster with my mom, who lived in Baltimore at the time, my brother, who goes to college in Pittsburgh, Gabriel and I, and proceeded to make the drive to NC the day before Thanksgiving. It was a rough road trip, but 8 hours later I was with family which was all that mattered to me. In 2018 we hosted Thanksgiving at our place, and a little advice, if you don’t have the best relationship with your mother, I don’t recommend having her stay an entire week with you during the holidays.  This year, Gabriel and I once again drove down to NC to spend quality time with my family, You might think this is a lot of traveling, then again Thanksgiving tends to be the holiday of traveling so you might not, but doing this is the best way to forget that we live so far away from what we call home. 

You see Puerto Rico is Home and will always be home, and for that I am grateful, but the best part of a home is the people in it. I am incredibly family-oriented, even when they drive me crazy, I will do anything for my family. Living in DC is amazing but I have no family around, my closest relatives are in Delaware and I rarely speak with them. But my aunt in NC means everything to me, my grandparents mean everything to me. 

My Grandfather is someone I am extremely grateful for and have always been, but since a hospital stays and scare we had with him last year, the idea for being so far away has haunted me. You see I got a call saying that he might not make it past the weekend and I panicked. Mi Abuelo io has always been there for me, no matter what I choose to do. Even when he doesn’t agree with it, he is incredibly supportive and proud of it. He means everything to me and the thought of losing him shook me to my core. I wasn’t there,  and I wasn’t sure if I would make it in time. I hadn’t spoken to him in a while, I hadn’t said I love you, I haven’t thanked him for everything he had ever done for me.

He stayed in the hospital for 41 days, and unfortunately, things got worse before they got better. So focusing on work was something I simply couldn’t do. Every day I called him 2 twice a day, I called my mom, my aunts, and my grandmother constantly because I needed to know what was happening. You see I was ready to get on a plane, but getting on a plane meant I was flying to say goodbye and I couldn’t get myself to do that.

It’s something I am still not ready to do. I know everyone says you are never ready to say goodbye, but I have been ready before, when my other grandfather was sick and was also in an out and the doctor had no hope, I had to get ready because if I didn’t I would have been selfish. He was suffering and saying goodbye was the right thing to do because it would mean he would no longer be in pain. But I am not ready to lose my other grandfather just yet. 

This Thanksgiving I am thankful to be able to hear my Abuelo io call me “graviela”. To have him give me a kiss on the forehead, to see him sleeping and snoring on the couch with the dog on his lap, to see him decide that he will smoke a cigar because no one is telling him otherwise. To listen to his voice while asking the same question 5 times a day. I am thankful I have another day to be in his presence. 

I am thankful that I am blessed to have a crazy family, that even though we aren’t in Puerto Rico, we are all blessed and grateful to have a little piece of home in North Carolina.

 

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A Mermaid in a Shark Tank….

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Una Sirena en un Tanque de Tiburones

I must be a Mermaid. I have no fear of depth and a great fear of shallow living

— Anaïs Nin.


Hi There,

My name is Ada and I am trying to figure out this whole life thing. I know if you are a millennial you are thinking “so are all of us, what makes you special”  and if you’re not a millennial you might be thinking what are you trying to figure out, your life can’t be that bad.

Well, I am special, because I am me and that is enough and it isn’t, my life is not bad at all, it’s amazing most of the time as is almost everyone’s life and that is exactly what I am trying to figure out. I am trying to figure out how to live this life, how to enjoy it, how to survive in it, how to stand out, how to make the most of it, how to be utterly and profoundly happy in a world where I have always felt I don’t quite belong in.

Hopefully, that got your attention, and you kept reading and didn’t close the tab. My name is Ada, (Basically Fairy), I am 27 as I write this and for as long as I can remember feeling like I belong isn’t something I am familiar with. I have always felt like a fish out of water, literally the ocean is the one place I always felt like I belonged in, and I have thought long and hard about writing all of this and sharing my life with complete strangers for a long time and well nowadays is not really that big of a deal, so here it goes.

Welcome to my ocean on the internet, an open safe space for me, (and hopefully you one day). A Space where I can share my story, my thoughts, my journey to become my best self. A space where anyone can feel like they belong, where everybody can share their stories.  I am not really sure as to why I am doing a public blog, I just hope that there are people out there who feel like I do, who think like I do and have struggled to find someone to relate to and I hope to become that person.

Not sure what I will write about but it will definitely be in the range of anything from Sharks to world politics and everything in between, and as I write about all of these topics know that everyone and anyone is welcomed in the community I hope to create with this page. I hope the ups and downs of my past, present, and future life are something you can relate to.

I am a Mermaid in a Shark Tank and I have spent the majority of my life bumping my head against the wall of the tank trying to keep moving, and I hope this page become my way out, because as most sharks I need to keep moving, and I will do everything to ensure I migrate forward.


This is the first post on my new blog. I’m just getting this new blog going, so stay tuned for more. Subscribe below to get notified when I post new updates.

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